if you put a frog in boiling water, it will jump out.
if you put a frog in warm water and gradually turn up the heat until the water is boiling, the frog will remain there until it dies.
and that is an abusive relationship.
Holy shit.
I have a friend who wrote a short play that touched on this. He actually called it Frogs. Probably one of the best student-written, -directed, and -performed pieces I’ve seen in my life.